Miscommunication

Oh the failure of couples to communicate effectively. If we ever figured out how to communicate effectively and efficiently, then I’m pretty sure divorce rates would plummet, there’d definitely be less breakups, and oh yeah, the cure to cancer would be found.

Personally, I find it interesting how girls and guys always fail to see the same statements the same way. I took a poll and asked several guys who are dating what the root of some of their own personal fights were and the issues they had when the messages they were trying to send across, simply didn’t. Some of these quotes are also the things these men expressed girls in general just understood and knew about guys.

(For the safety and privacy of these gentlemen, their last names will be withheld from being published.)

“Don’t be mad when a guy opens the door for you. I hear enough complaints about guys being jerks and chivalry being dead. When chivalry slaps you in the face, take advantage of the good mood the guy is in and just go through the door.” ~Paul

“I don’t understand why girls have to make us paying for them such a big deal sometimes. Just let us pay for you and don’t “feel bad” but just smile and say “thank you!” We enjoy paying for you.” ~John

“When we tell you that you’re cute/beautiful/gorgeous/breath-takingly stunning, we are not making up stuff. We mean it. Just accept the damn compliment.” ~Steve

“We don’t care if you talk to other guys on the phone, but a phone call at 2 am of course some eyebrows are going to be raised. Nothing could possibly be THAT important at 2 in the morning.” ~Nicholas

“The hottest thing about any girl for me is confidence. I love it. That’s right, I said it. You can write my name R-A-N-D-Y.” ~Randy

“Don’t you girls understand that you don’t have to dress up every single time? We’re already dating. No need for that ‘cute’ outfit or tons of makeup. Honestly, it’s like that line from Drake’s song “Best I Ever Had”,

[Sweat pants, hair tied, chillin' with no make-up on
That's when you're the prettiest, I hope that you don't take it wrong]

because I think girls look so much cuter in just a t-shirt and jeans.” ~Bryan

“I don’t care how hot or sexy David Beckham, Brad Pitt, or Justin Bieber is. That’s what your girlfriends are for, to talk about how ‘awesome’ they are. I don’t really care.” ~Matt

“I don’t understand why girls stay with those ***holes. Don’t wait for them to change, ladies. Find somebody who will treat you with respect. A guy that can bring a smile to your face when you’re having a really crappy day. A guy who will love you for you, despite all your flaws and mistakes. A guy that will take time to say “I love you” and actually mean it to you. Give the nice guys a chance.” ~Andrew

Why do they do that?: Girls Ask Guys

Alright, so here’s part two of solving the mystery of the opposite sex (or at least scratching the surface). The same ladies were invited to ask the guys the things they’ve always wanted to know, and hopefully these guys gave us some useful info.

Still confused? Me too. It seems to me that many of the answers for both sexes was “that’s just what we do”. As long as we look past these silly habits, I think we’ll end up ok.